Saturday, 13 November 2010

On Being Good and Discovery Channel's "The Colony"

Are you good? I believe that anybody can be good. There's an inherent goodness in anyone. Yeah, sure, some people are down right meanies, but still, they are good to other people right?

I was watching The Colony in Discovery Channel just a few minutes ago. The Colony is a show where the setting was an aftermath of a huge disasters. There are a few people who survived the disaster and they're working together to survive. They have to work for everything that they'll need. They have to scavenge, find ways to make ends meet. Sometimes, people will come and steal the supplies they worked hard for (bummer!). They'll have to do this for about 50 days.

There are also a few expers who are interviewed from time to time, to explain the behavior of the people. Mostly psychologists, who discuss the reaction of the people on the show. Also there's this narrator.

Anyway, some expert said that there are 5 basic necessities that people need.
  1. Food
  2. Water
  3. Shelter
  4. Fire
  5. Security
On day 1, the colony was able to secure the first 4.

The thing that bothers me is that, 3 people came up to them and asked for food and water. Almost everyone was reluctant to give anything. They keep on telling the people that they have nothing.

One man however talked to the other members of the colony and told them that they should give them to boxes of milk, since it has a lot of protein, and one answered that they shouldn't give anything because they will just ask for more, or keep on coming back to ask for stuff. Worse is that if they come across other people as well and tell them that they have food there.

The good guy insist that they should give something, so they gave him a jug of water and 1 box of milk. The 3 outsiders though wanted for more, so there was a scuffle. Then 2 days later, the 3 outsiders had a mob with them and ransacked the colony's shelter. They took food and medicine.

When the 3 outsiders were asking for food, I was alarmed that the colony wouldn't even consider giving food, also when the mob attacked to loot them.

Although the mob was instructed to loot them, and the colony was informed of possible looters since after all, this is a show; I really was alarmed at how selfish people were.

It made me think, for how long and how far can you be good to others? Are you just good now because you have something to give? Because you are now well-off? because your life is stable? What about when it all boils down to a survival game? Will you be like the colony or the mob? be selfish? Just think of yourself or your group? Will you refuse food and water to people who are suffering the same predicament is you are?

It's easy to say "Yes, I'll be good. I'll share whatever I have.". It's easy cause we're not in that situation yet, but what if we were now? For example, a big earthquake hit your place. You can't seem to see that help is coming. You and your family are all alive, but you only have a limited supply of food and water. Then a group of mean looking thugs come, will you deny them of food and water? Sharing it may mean dwindling the supplies faster. Will you still help? Will you still be good?

Wednesday, 10 November 2010

Who's fault is it?

I know it's my fault, but still... IT SUCKS BIG TIME! There are a lot of reasons why it's my fault. I lacked hindsight and I just let what happened, happen. On the other hand, there a more reasons why it's not my fault. Like the other party's lack of being able to properly project, or anticipate what will happen.

But in the end, it will still boil down to me. It was my decision. So it's my fault. Don't you hate being responsible and mature? If I weren't I'd just point all my 10 fingers to the other party and rampage like mad! I'll throw a tantrum and backstab, and everything. Oh how I wish I was still in kindergarten!

I know I can't blog what really happened, so I'll just use a hypothetical scenario.

For example, a friend asked for a favor. You need to go somewhere, let's say in Bacolod, to do this favor for your friend. Your friend is willing to shoulder your airfare to and from Bacolod, no problem. The thing you'll do will take just a short time, probably 1 hour to 5 hours tops. All your travel expenses you incur to do the favor will also be paid. Plus an additional 150 Pesos for your food. So seeing that what you need to do is fairly easy, you gladly accept your friend's offer.

The problem is, you have never been to Bacolod, and you don't know anyone from Bacolod, no one will be there to stay with you, except your rendezvous person (rendezvous person?, the person you'll meet to help you out on the favor). The person, is also just someone that your friend asked for a favor. They aren't friends either. Probably someone your friend paid.

Anyway, since you thought that you should have someone with you, you suggested this to your friend. The answer was yes, you could bring someone, but the expenses for that someone will not be covered. Also, if you decide to stay longer, hotel fees and food for the rest of the stay won't be shouldered by the friend asking for a favor.

Since you knew that your friend was a little tight on cash, you let it slide. You just bring someone with you, just to be sure. I mean, you'll never know if you need anyone right? That's what I learned in girl scouting anyway. Never be without your buddy/buddies, in case something happens to you.

So you happened to bring a sibling with you, just so you have someone to watch your back, and a vacation with your sibling. You asked your parents to shoulder the airfare, and they agreed. Of course. They wouldn't want you to venture alone. Ticket costs 6000 because it's pick season and you'll travel in a few days time. Quite expensive, but it's okay. So everything's great. You're just waiting for your departure.

A few days before you leave for Bacolod, the trip was cancelled. Your friend wasn't ready with the things needed for the favor, so your friend told you that the trip will be put off at a later date. Okay. So you cancel your hotel accommodations. Your friend called you a week after and told you the trip was back on. Also your friend told you that you need to pay for the extra air fare, so you paid and then reserved a hotel room again. A day before your departure, the trip was canceled yet again.

You wanted to cancel your sibling's ticket already because you were informed that the trip will really push through mid week, since your sibling can't miss school, you just wanted to cancel. You were informed prior, that the ticket can't be refunded, but you were insistent that it could be, so you were told after it was consulted to the travel agent, that the ticket was refundable, but not in full. You let out a sigh of relief, at least a part of the very expensive ticket will be refunded.

Then, after a few days, your were told that the trip could be moved on a weekend. GREAT! You can bring your sibling after all! YAY! So you called up your parents to tell them that you'll bring your sibling all along. YAY!

The day after your rejoicing, you were told that there was an, additional charge for the ticket, which was almost amounting to 4000 Pesos. WHAT?! Oh, and btw, the ticket is again, non-refundable. WHAT?! WHY?! Well, it's because the ticket was on promo and it had restrictions. What restrictions? Well, it can't be refunded, thats what.! OH CRAP!

So you decided that you don't want your sibling to come along after all. No way are you shelling out additional dough! So you call your mum up, who was so disappointed and disgusted! She goes and tells you(in a very irate voice) "Ano ba tong pinasukan mo?! Kausapin mo ng mabuti yung agent. Linawin mo. Kayo nalang ng papa mo magusap!" (What did you get yourself into? Talk to the agent again and clear the details up. Talk to your dad!). So you call up your dad and explain the whole thing, and he goes "Ano ba tong pinasukan mo?!" (Didn't you here this already?). So your dad goes and asks you to get a break down of why the additional cost amounted to such. So you gave him the break down (and you're already breaking down. What the hell did you get yourself into?!). He told you he doesn't have that money right now, but if you need someone with you, he'll find a way (Oh if you were with him, you could kiss and hug him!). So you tell him you'll be okay on your own. So he said, well then just charge the 6000 pesos to experience. At least now, you already know.

and you finally break down and cry, and blog teary eyed!

Tuesday, 9 November 2010

Reservation in Heaven

I remembered the homily of our parish priest last sunday. I was struck about how simple he explained the Gospel.

The Gospel yesterday was about death and resurrection. Below is last Sunday's Gospel (Nov 7, 2010)

Gospel: Lk 20:27–38 (or Lk 20:27, 34–38)
Some Sadducees arrived. These people claim that there is no resurrection and they asked Jesus this question, “Master, in the Scripture Moses told us: ‘If anyone dies leaving a wife but no children, his brother must take the wife, and the child to be born will be regarded as the child of the deceased man.’ Now, there were seven brothers; the first married a wife, but he died without children; and the second and the third took the wife; in fact all seven died leaving no children. Last of all the woman died. On the day of the resurrection, to which of them will the woman be wife? For the seven had her as wife.”
And Jesus replied, “Taking husband or wife is proper to people of this world, but for those who are considered worthy of the world to come and of resurrection from the dead, there is no more marriage. Besides, they cannot die for they are like the angels. They too are sons and daughters of God because they are born of the resurrection.
“Yes, the dead will be raised, and even Moses implied it in the passage about the burning bush, where he calls the Lord the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac and the God of Jacob. For he is God of the living and not of the dead, and for him all are alive.”
Now our parish priest said that he believes that Heaven uses a reservation system. You also need a ticket to go to heaven. To reserve a space in heaven, and the ticket to heaven, you have to pay in advance. His whole homily used this metaphor, and I was lapping it all up! I loved the metaphor!

His homily really made me think about what I have been doing in my life. Have I saved enough so I could buy that ticket, and a place to live in in heaven? Probably not. If I would sum up all the Good I have done, I would need a "promo" so that I could travel. Something similar to Cebu Pacific's Piso seat fare! Then, when I get to heaven, I probably wouldn't have enough to rent a small tent.

Yeah. I know I've done a lot that are good, but these things that I have done are still not enough. I would try my best to do good, and live my life as close as to how Jesus lived his. I'm not doing this all because I want to go to heaven. I'm doing this because I want to serve him. Maybe the reason why I'm not doing such a good job at it is because I'm not visualizing the prize.

Anyway, I made this blog, hoping that you too would do more good in this world God knows we need it. :)

Have a blessed life :)

Top 10 Rules that I live by

Okay, so I was so pissed of this past few days, that I decided to post the rules that I live by in my FB account.

I was pissed because I believe in something that others do not. It really is just the reason why I get pissed off, why anybody gets pissed off, right? You can't persuade someone to share your opinion, and so you're pissed. It's really selfish of us right? Especially when we start looking for people who agree with us.

Anyway, here's my top 10:

  1. You shall love your neighbor as You love yourself.
  2. Don't do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you.
  4. Excuses are for LOSERS. Take responsibility.
  5. Gossiping and backstabbing are a double ended swords. Don't bother hurting yourself.
  6. Be careful who you betray. You don't know who you're dealing with
  7. Making others look and feel bad to make yourself feel good is like feeling great for a fire that's destroying your house
  8. If you have nothing to do but to talk behind other people's back, especially mine, then by all means, do continue. It's our pleasure to make you feel so wretchedly worked up inside
  9. I'm arrogant. Deal with it.
  10. Yes. I'm threatening YOU

I gotta work now so I can't give a long narrative of why these are my top 10. Maybe some other day?